“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~ George Bernard Shaw
That's the thing about life - learning to communicate properly, with full understanding of whether or not your message was heard and processed, is the hardest skill to learn.
Just last night, the egyptian and I clearly had some signals crossed. I was feeling and understanding one thing- he misinterpreted. Then he made a decision, and "announced" it to me. I reacted. He reacted. Then we both took a 4 hour time out and tried our best to understand.
I kept asking the same thing over and over, "Can you understand why I would feel this way? Can you see where I am coming from?"
Of course the answer was no.
Words are so powerful. We utter our thoughts, quite carelessly sometimes. When you are trying to communicate in a way that may not be your native language, sometimes the words come out completely wrong.
That could go for work also. Let's say you are a feeler and your manager is a thinker. (There of tons of tests out there to identify what type of communicator you are - just google it.) Clearly you may cross the wrong wires from time to time.
I am not sure if there is ever a solution to this. I am just working really hard on the one part I can control - the reaction.
If I had to describe myself - I would definitely say I am a reactor. No - this is not a good thing.
How do you communicate with your loved ones? What are the triggers that cross the wires and cause you to react?
It's a constant battle.. I am sure of it.