Wednesday, October 6, 2010

What are you REALLY like? Sometimes it is hard to see what a person's personality is like when they write. Sure, you get a few little insights, but tone can be misinterpreted and so can intention.

On most occassions, I try to understand what it is I am trying to say, or what point I am trying make. Does it matter? Does it make sense? What IS the point to my ramblings.

Then I try to decide, would you care? Would it help you to know? Does it matter for you to know? Ahh... who knows..

I sometimes wish I had the guts to do a Vlog, but then again, I am afraid I would just ramble even more. I AM a talker. One thing would definitely surface (once my sweet southern genteel greetings were out of the way) - I am sooo sarcastic. So much so that I have ended friendships over it. Let me rephrase - PEOPLE have ended friendships over it, not me.

Sense of humor differs in different parts of the world. We all know this and we have all experienced this.  I tend to be a little cynical in verbiage and I am quick to make some (what I consider funny) "come backs." Yet, many more people are waaay sensitive and well, the "humor" kind of falls on deaf ears.

I find in different geographical areas my humor works. Say.. my friends from New England, or my friends from the West Coast.. or my friends who work in my specific field (media people.) If you are a friend of mine on FB you can see the witty banter taking place with my friends. Most of the people I am chatting with are one of three people: 1. My old TV co-workers (who are hilarious and quick witted) 2. People who I literally grew up with (and they all have a very thick skin) and 3. My besties (now.)

I say all of this, but you have got to know -  I do have a big heart. I just don't necessarily SHOW it outwardly. Maybe you guys have gotten a little glimpse into my inner workings  than the average person I come in contact with on a daily basis.

The reason I tell you all of this, I got an interesting email from someone who, after all of these years, STILL does not get me. I recently posted a FB status about how excited I was to be volunteering for a new organization. It's called Impact Family Counseling - it is an organization that partners children with people in the community. The catch is - these kids have parents that are incarcerated. My "friend"said, "Why would YOU want to do something like that." They went on to imply (since clearly in their mind I am not "cuddly") as to why I do all of this volunteer work at various places. I only replied, "Because I like it." The truth is - I LIVE for it.

I don't want to volunteer for a society group that randomly shows up and does a little work for the less fortunate. I want to get in there with the hardcore and make a difference. I like to challenge my emotions and my thoughts, expose myself to another "subculture" and see if I can make a difference and if THEY can make a difference in my life. These kids  - it's no joke. They have seen and possibly done things you and I can only imagine. But instead of sitting around and saying, "THEY need to do something and rehabilitate these families.." I am going to roll up my sleeves and try to help, in any way possible.

What about you? How are you perceived and how are you REALLY?


Anonymous said...

Excellent post! My jaw literally dropped open when I read the part where someone sent you a message about "Why would you want to do that". My question is, why Wouldn't you want to do that? Why wouldn't anyone?? Anyway, I am definitely perceived as different! It takes some time for me to warm up to someone, I have to have that "feel you out" period before I embrace you into my world. The result of being slapped in the face and stabbed in the back too many times. But because of this "standoffish" projection, I am perceived as being a snob and antisocial which is totally off the mark. I'm just extremely cautious. When I am not and I jump in feet first, that is when I am put in the position of getting my feelings hurt (usually in a big way). So lesson learned...I take my time getting to know someone.

Jen G-son said...

I think I'm one of the most misunderstood people around. Seriously. I have a massive mouth on me, I'm sarcastic, rude, judgemental, loud and sometimes annoying. A lot of people never ever get past that to see the giving, generous, loving, empathetic, smart, funny woman I can be. Luckily, this helps weed out the fake people. I don't have drama friends because the ones who cause dramam normally get weeded out fast :)

Yenta Mary said...

I see your ENORMOUS heart shining through every time I read your postings; I see you as humorous, but not sarcastic per se. You strike me as the sort of warm, wonderful, effusive kinda girl I'd want to have coffee with!

Robin said...

It is very easy to be misunderstood when you are just writing. There is so much inflection and such when you are talking that doesn't get conveyed when you are writing. However, there will always be some people who just don't "get" you. Sometimes a person has to experience real pain in order to to want to help people who are in pain. Sad but true.

Rene W. said...

Good for you! Stand up for what you believe in & don't worry about what everybody else thinks. I tend to be a little shy when I first meet people & I guess they may perceve me as "stuck up". Sometimes people don't get me right away, but I don't care - if they don't - it's their loss! Enjoy your volunteer work with the children :)

Anonymous said...

I am SOOOO sarcastic, but I'm from New England so I haven't had a big issue with people taking me the wrong way.

I can't believe someone who you're obviously not that friendly with anymore would have the guts to write you such a rude message.

Don't worry, I know who you really are :)


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