Love for many is just one click away. I have seen it happen time and time again - and my FINAL report is - I think it is an excellent idea! Yes, I am actually in favor of online dating, matchmaking, or just making new friends!
Here's the reality: unless you are still in school, it is next to impossible to meet someone on a continual basis. Sure, the random guy or girl may catch your eye at the grocery store or gas station. But seriously, who actually TALKS to anyone at these places? (Don't answer that southerners.. I know, I know..we talk to everyone. But generally, it's not the "norm.")
I can definitely say I am experienced in the dating and relationship world. I had my fair share of crushes and heart breaks. Sprinkle that with a few long-term relationships (including living with someone,) I think I can safely say, as an adult - it is next to impossible to meet people.
Sure - there are the singles groups at a church. One of my dearest friends at my church went to one of the singles groups (she is 27), she came back and said, "I was the youngest by at least 18 years, and most were divorced, and just ODD." Boo, that's too bad.
Then there is the random "set up." I have experienced at least one set up and I have to say that relationship lasted 2 years. I am sad to report, I sort of hung around because we had the same social circle, and my leaving him would cause my entire "social life" to fall apart. Luckily, we both had a really good excuse to move on and it worked out just fine.
What about the person you meet at a bar? Come on, most red blooded Americans spend a large quantity of time in the local bar and club scene in their 20s and early 30s. I think I met a random guy or two throughout my life this way. Never went past a date or two. But then, there was that ONE. Sad to say, we ended up moving in together about 4 months later, and getting engaged about 8 months after that. Married two years into our relationship and then 6 years later divorced. Yuck.
Then there is the guy at work. NEVER and I repeat - NEVER do this. I think I went out with a person or two from my television days. SUCH a bad idea. SOO SOOO bad. RARE that it works, or.. maybe, you really need to work in different departments. Because if it ends badly, it's bad all around.
That brings me to this online phenomenon. I think it is a good idea, and here is why: Because you get to read a surface level profile of their interests. (If they say Football is an interest and they list a team, well.. you have to realize they may live for days when the game is on, and taking you out may not be an option.) If they say they have a dog - well, get ready for fur on your favorite wool coat, and yes, you will be expected to love the dog also. If they have a child, if they are divorced, if they have a religious preference - it's all there. Basic things that SOMETIMES people like to leave out until they get to know one another better.
I also think it is a good idea because you are not meeting someplace like a bar, or a church, or work.. which means - if it doesn't work out, no embarrassment and awkward situations.
I have heard many times that people think it is dangerous. Tell me this - how is it any more dangerous than meeting ANY stranger any where? You have to use your good sense.
Another great thing about it, you are forced to chat a bit to get to know one another. You are actually writing, and let me tell you - what a GREAT way to get into the mind of anyone. (Clearly you agree, or you would not be reading a blog post!!!)
I never used a dating service. But, I know people who have. One of my friends has used eharmony or match.com many times. I believe they ended up with about 2 solid relationships. No, they did not work out - but it was the basic reasons anyone would not work out.
Also - it's not just for "sad, lonely divorced people." There is a stereotype with that one. Let me tell you, I have some friends that are drop dead gorgeous and in their 20's and they use these sites. It's because they are sick of the club scene and want to be a little more "picky." Just cut to the chase and find people with enough commonality and differences to keep it interesting.
I did meet my egyptian online using a social media site. It started out by curiosity between friends from different countries. Grew into a solid friendship, then a deeper respect for one another, then full-fledged "love." Yes.. online.