The difference between perseverance and obstinacy is that one comes from a strong will, and the other from a strong won't. ~Henry Ward Beecher
I am going to live by Scarlet O'Hara's philosophy - "Tomorrow is another day." It seems to work for me.
What we have going on here is someone wants perfection, and the other is far from perfect. No mistakes are allowed. No stumbles, no slip of the tongue, and definitely no challenging of the other person.
Guess what? I challenge. (Bet you never saw that one coming... right? *wink*)
My previous post was my reaction to an argument. Good old fashioned argument. He was teasing... playful. I teased back. An ego was bruised, and in cruel style - threatening of no more tomorrows from him. ?????????
Hard core punishment and definitely not acceptable.
Which got me to thinking, there are two types of people in a relationship - the one who tries (and it is sometimes messy, etc) and the one that quits (without even trying.)
So far, in the fresh light of day - all is well. Maybe. Maybe not. Who knows. But it happens too easily. No one should react so strongly with words, even after apologies have flown throughout the home.
Apparently to maintain the level of peace, love and bliss - I must be perfect. I must keep my mouth shut. I must not challenge. I must remain tidy. No mistakes.
That's a lot.
Love is there... just not unconditional love.
Not sure how that works. Not sure what to do. Not sure why it happens so often and why it happens so dramatically and so hard.
Good, honest conversations about anger took place. That was good. Progress was made. Having someone professionally walk us through the process is out of the question for the other person.
I will have to pull all of my tricks out of my bag to patch this little misunderstanding up. But (as of last night) apparently I have lost all my chances. What does that mean? Can a person live with the idea of a future not available to her? Why such strong threats? Why use it as a method to change me?
Just working through the details. Relationships are for the birds, I tell you.
I will bring the peace back. Just need to calm the dragon. ;-)