I might be getting this completely wrong, but I think I am surrounded by naysayers. For the record, I am NOT a fan of the naysayer, especially... when I know I am right.
I'm not always right, but for the most part, I tend to keep my mouth shut unless I am 100% sure I am right. Why? Because I don't want to be one of them - the naysayers.
You see them everywhere, and it seems, the older I get, the more they come out of the woodwork. I suppose this is because with experience and age, people tend to be more set in their ways.
Obviously I get a good dose of it with all of the international friends and family I have. Sometimes it's of no use to even try to reason with someone who has a completely different skew on social norms. The only time I even "go there" is when it deals with historical facts- say for instance... something that happened during WWII. I have listened to CRAZY talk from my in-laws in Egypt about what actually happened with the Jews. Don't even get me started. One of my favorite arguments is about Christ. They will tell me that Muslims love Christ more than Christians do... long story.. but you can imagine how high my voice levels raise when I begin talking about the differences.
I mean.. I am all about sharing our differences, celebrating our commonality, and learning a little something from each other- but there is a time and place for everything.
I experience the naysayer at work. Let's say I am sharing my weekly update. This is usually the list of successes and projects I am attempting to accomplish. There is always one in the bunch that will make a point to try to suggest something (NOO.. I've never thought of that *smh*) or maybe try to correct you on how you choose to do something. It takes an act of God for me not to leap across the table and not strangle someone. It doesn't matter where you work, we all have experienced it.
I also experience the naysayer with friends, and boy oh boy, these are.. well.. people that I am not sure as to whether I should classify them as frenemies or just people I tolerate for the sake of the group. They always poke their noses where they are really not welcomed. The funny thing is, another friends can happily go there - just not the naysayer.
This naysayer will tell you how to live your life, and they love to tell you what you are doing wrong. But note - they rarely share their private business with you. If you ask them, "Oh life is perfect," and of course, the cynic in me sort of smirks. Riiiiight.
I really detest the naysayer.
What type of naysayers do you deal with on a daily basis?