I don't know how this is in other parts of the United States, but down here... we have a lot of, well.. let's see...
Good old-fashioned turning up of the nose.
*it cracks me up every time.*
As a matter of fact, I saw it today. My Rotary Club was the host for a benefit for my museum. How cool is that? As it were, I was standing toward the back (which is sort of the front, when you first enter the room,) and in walks most of the guests. Three clubs were joining forces today, as well as some heavy hitters from around town (special guests of sorts,) and as the marketing chicky for the museum, I was standing toward the back greeting our sponsors and board of trustees.
As I am standing there, chatting it up with some other people, an acquaintance walks up and says hello. He had with him a friend/co-worker/what-have-you who sort of stood a little behind him. She was a beautiful girl, fairly young/blond and possibly affluent. I happen to glance her way to welcome her and introduce myself when she did the classic (and I am so not exaggerating this,) turned her nose up and looked the other way. I just smiled, and turned to her friend and kept on talking.
After the event was over, the friend came by (with her,) and asked for my card to email me some items. As I was handing it to him I took a closer look at her (of course she was not looking at me..) but I noticed what I knew all along- She felt out of place. Here was this beautiful girl, surrounded by influential people in our community and ... really.. she was so unsure of herself.
Her defense was classic - snub 'em so they don't snub you.
I actually felt sorry for her.
Of course I have been snubbed by those less insecure than her. I remember walking downtown one night with some friends and I happened to make eye contact with someone that I find myself in meetings with from time to time. She's very involved with the community and fairly well known, but not originally from here. She looked dead at me, whispered to her friend, and looked away. I saw it so clearly that night, and I just smiled. You see... she finds herself surrounded by people who all behave this way, and I honestly believe (observing her over time,) that she must believe if she behaves this way, then she will fit in with those around her. Again - snobbery, but for different reasons.
Of course I've done my share of snubbing. There are certain people who have wronged me one way or another and sure, I can be the bitchiest of the bitches.Sometimes I will go as so far as to disregard a person.
I have to stop and ask myself, why? It's as clear as the tip of my nose - because I was wronged. Or hurt. So my defense? Hurt back.
Now the truth is, did the blond mean to snub me? Maybe not. Maybe she was overwhelmed and out of her element. Did the other acquaintance mean to snub me? Maybe not. Maybe she was talking about someone else.. or maybe it's because she was dressed (down,) and she's always dressed to the hilt and I caught her on an off day and she did not feel good about herself. Or maybe.. just maybe.. she did not see me.
But the truth is, we all do it.... and in the end.... we all need to be a little kinder to each other.
As a college student, I would sometimes get a little intimidated by people who would not acknowledge me. As I got older, I sort of would laugh when someone behaved that way. Why? Because the end result was always the same - these people were typically out of their element and incredibly insecure. I've always felt sorry for people like that. Why? They are missing out so much.
Have you ever been snubbed? Do you snub? If so, why or why not?
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