Growing up in the south affords you the opportunity to experience a long summer. It typically starts in April and will last well into September, and oftentimes, parts of October.
Yes, Spring and Fall do make it here, but they are so short lived.
When I think of growing up, outside of little memories about Christmas or birthdays, I mostly remember summertime.
I'll be the first to admit, I am not a big fan of the hot weather. I don't mean 80 degrees and sunny hot, I'm talking 100 degrees with 90% humidity hot - sauna hot. That's what most of our days feel like down here, starting in July. However, the memories, especially as a child, sort of drown out the hades-like temperature, and flood my mind with happiness.
For one, I remember swimming pools. I spent a majority of my more formative years living in an apartment complex. Luckily, the neighborhood we lived in had a community pool, lake, volleyball court, and 1/2 a dozen playgrounds. It was a huge co-op community - more set up like condos and townhouses, versus your standard apartment complex.
Each morning I would get up fairly early, choke down some breakfast, grab my towel and head to the pool. I only came home for lunch, and then would pop right back down and swim all day long. I remember sliding down the water slide, playing "Sharks & Minnows," perfecting my serve at volleyball, and sitting by the pool listening to Madonna, Elton John, Prince, and Michael Jackson. We would all beg for 50 cents from our dads for the soda machine. I would consume my Dr. Pepper like it was the second coming. We would spend hours upon hours trying to soak up the sun, and gossip about the cute boys. At night, we would all gather down at the picnic tables and engage in a little hide & go seek through the woods of the complex. Later, we would slip on over to the dock, and hang out until we individually would hear our parents yell our names. That was my the bulk of my summer.
But there were other things I remember:
Camp Martha Johnston
I spent a good bit of time from 1979 - 1985, at Girl Scout Camp each summer. Here I learned how to swim, play tennis, hook a warm and fish with a cane pole, identify most plants, canoe, skate, hike, and a ton of other typical summer activities. I remember mail call- a time when we would gather at the McGee lodge and get "Miss you" cards from our parents, and purchase items from the country store. I remember the cool, sweet taste of Cherry Berries, Astro pops, and Mickey Mouse ice creams. I remember limitless mosquito bites and the smell of Deep Woods Off or Avon's Skin-So-Soft. I remember challenging each other to cross the "monkey bridge," it was a rope bridge that took you from bank to bank over Sweet Water Creek. My claim to fame was that I was the only kid who was able to cross blind-folded and walking backwards. Yeah - I used to be quite the dare devil.
Community Children's Theatre
Though most of my friends were stuck to only hanging out at the pool, I was shipped from camp to camp. Each summer, my sister and I would partake in CCT's summer theater camps. I was spend my morning in dance classes, and improvisation classes, and preparing for our summer theater production. Hours and hours were spent rehearsing with some of middle Georgia's best theater instructors. I perfected my form, improved my voice, and could remember entire dialogues very quickly. I made some wonderful friends, people I still know today, and gained incredible experience that has helped me conduct myself appropriately in the workplace, as well as completely washed away any fear I would have of public speaking.
July 4th in Indiana
My dad was from a little town called Monroe City. We would return to southern Indiana every summer for a little family reunion. I remember corn fields and tons of little blond haired cousins. (The Thurston clan - mostly blond hair and blue eyes.) Playing badminton and softball games. Being asked numerous times to, "Say something in southern." Hilarious.
Granny's House
I also spent an extraordinary amount of time at my Great Grandmother's home on my mom's side. Granny was born in 1901, and was still very traditional in her old age. I was extremely close to her because my mom grew up in her house. My grandparents lived with Granny their entire married life - so needless to say, I was probably closer to them than most of my cousins.
As soon as we would enter the doors of my Granny's house, my Papa would point us in the direction of the treats he had waiting for us. (Which would drive my mom crazy.) He would have a bag of Golden Flake Sour Cream & Onion chips and some fudge ripple ice cream in the freezer. I would run to his room and play with my paper dolls, or sit and listen to his Johnny Cash records. I would head out side and play with the dogs, or wander through his amazing garden. I would invite my cousins that lived across the street to come over and play. We would have a wonderful time. I always got the biggest kick from going through their old things. My Grandma Betty had a huge assortment of jewelry and purses. I would have her show me her things, every time I came over. I think she enjoyed telling the stories as much as I loved listening to them.
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Summers in the south really are grand. From quick trips to the beach or lake, to campfires at night. From sweet iced tea on the front porch, to catching lightning bugs at night - everything is special down here.
What are some of your fondest memories surrounding summer?
Friday, June 13, 2014
Thursday, June 12, 2014
What It Means To Know Yourself
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Sometimes we take our own mirror and hold it up to the people closest to us, hoping they see what we see, but at the end of the day... they only see themselves.
And that's okay.
So what does it mean to know yourself? For someone like me working in marketing and communications, we measure our success or need to improve through various metrics. I am fairly certain, when I was in my 20s, my measure of success would be whether I accomplished certain goals I had set out. Graduate from college? Check. Get a job in television? Check. Get my own place? Check. Find a boyfriend? Check. Get engaged? Check. Get married before I turned 30? Check..
Check, Check, Check.
I am good at setting goals and accomplishing them. But all of that - every single bit of that - it is all very superficial.
I ended up leaving the job in television because I wanted more - more money, more time, more everything. I ended up settling for a man that I was not in love with because, as far as I was concerned, I had a time table to uphold and everyone else had already settled down and started having families. That led to a miserable 8 years that finally ended in divorce.
But if you had asked me what I wanted at 22 - I would have said those things, and told you quite firmly, all of that was who I was. I achieved goals, I was doing what I was brought up to believe was the right thing to do.
None of that was who I really am.
At 41, I think I have a different perspective. Though it is flawed in concept, it represents where I am in life and what I hold as important.
1. What is my relationship with God? Do I have a relationship with God? Do I truly believe in God?
2. What lights my soul on fire?
3. What is important to me? Is it money? Family? Love? Career? Travel?
4. What type of legacy am I leaving behind? What type of impact did I make on my community, with my family, with people I come in contact with on a daily basis?
5. Am I growing and evolving?
I think those five questions define who I am... the real me.
What I have decided to do is work on a five part series by answering these very questions. I hope to be as candid as I possibly can - not for entertainment purposes, but to document for myself where I believe I stand right now.
As for the 20 year old - I think she would be proud of me. ;-)
Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Embracing the 40s
This past weekend I helped my roomie celebrate her 38th birthday. We did this by taking a trip to the beach, a trip that had a theme titled, "The Event That Cannot Be Mentioned."
Why?
Because my roomie did not want to be reminded she was turning 38.
Then only this morning, I read an article on HuffPost called the 50 Shades of 40 - and it was this "Ode to I Hate Getting Older" bit.
I sat here for a minute and thought... why is everyone so negative about entering their late 30s, early 40s. Personally, it has been a blast.
Here are my reasons:
1. For once, in the work place, I can say that I have 20 + years of experience in my field. What I say and do finally has a little merit to back it up.
2. I know how to conduct my life - Buy a house/rent an apartment, buy cars, go on vacations, plan for retirement, etc. I don't need co-signers and what not. I'm finally independent and have been living that way for well over a decade.
3. When it comes to marriage/weddings/special events - Been there, done that. No anxiety and high stress there. Most of us have experienced planning a wedding, and even more of us can say we have lived through a divorce. We have buried close friends/relatives, and we know all of those silly games for baby showers.
4. People complain about the way they look, and personally, outside gaining weight and developing a few extra lines here and there, none of us really look any different.
5. I am so much more confident about so many little things. I know who I am, and I know what I like and don't like... and honestly, I don't care as much about what other people think.
Overall, I feel better than I probably have in years. Of course my skin is changing, as well as my waist line - but all of that is manageable. As long as you take care of yourself, do the best you can, and try to treat others with respect and fairness, life will reward you with an excellent decade!
Why?
Because my roomie did not want to be reminded she was turning 38.
Then only this morning, I read an article on HuffPost called the 50 Shades of 40 - and it was this "Ode to I Hate Getting Older" bit.
I sat here for a minute and thought... why is everyone so negative about entering their late 30s, early 40s. Personally, it has been a blast.
Here are my reasons:
1. For once, in the work place, I can say that I have 20 + years of experience in my field. What I say and do finally has a little merit to back it up.
2. I know how to conduct my life - Buy a house/rent an apartment, buy cars, go on vacations, plan for retirement, etc. I don't need co-signers and what not. I'm finally independent and have been living that way for well over a decade.
3. When it comes to marriage/weddings/special events - Been there, done that. No anxiety and high stress there. Most of us have experienced planning a wedding, and even more of us can say we have lived through a divorce. We have buried close friends/relatives, and we know all of those silly games for baby showers.
4. People complain about the way they look, and personally, outside gaining weight and developing a few extra lines here and there, none of us really look any different.
5. I am so much more confident about so many little things. I know who I am, and I know what I like and don't like... and honestly, I don't care as much about what other people think.
Overall, I feel better than I probably have in years. Of course my skin is changing, as well as my waist line - but all of that is manageable. As long as you take care of yourself, do the best you can, and try to treat others with respect and fairness, life will reward you with an excellent decade!
Thursday, June 5, 2014
Salt Water & Sunshine
Earl Wilson once said, "A vacation is what you take when you can no longer take what you've been taking"
I could not agree more, Earl.
I've had about all I can take.. and I'm tired. My spirit is tired, my brain is tired, my body is tired... I am in desperate need of a little time off. Luckily, I'm about to get that - I'm taking a long weekend and heading to the coast.
Between the budget cuts looming, to navigating dating in your 40s (post divorce,) to maintaining a quasi-successful healthier lifestyle.. I just need a few moments to breath in the salt air, feel the sand beneath my toes, and just bask in the sunshine.
You know, when God made the beach, he really was showing off! There is hands down, nothing more therapeutic than spending a little time by sea.
It's fascinating to me how the actual sound of the waves rolling onto the shore and crashing against the coast can bring a sense of serenity.... but that feeling, that indescribably fantastic feeling is what I am craving and in dire need of.
I challenge each of you to find your happy place this weekend. Even if it is nothing more than a few moments alone in a warm bath, try to release the tension of the week and breathe.
I can't wait to share with you guys all that happens on my trip!
(PS - Sorry for the lame post. I'm tired, it's after midnight, and I'm just finishing up a little laundry. Have a wonderful weekend!)
I could not agree more, Earl.
I've had about all I can take.. and I'm tired. My spirit is tired, my brain is tired, my body is tired... I am in desperate need of a little time off. Luckily, I'm about to get that - I'm taking a long weekend and heading to the coast.
Between the budget cuts looming, to navigating dating in your 40s (post divorce,) to maintaining a quasi-successful healthier lifestyle.. I just need a few moments to breath in the salt air, feel the sand beneath my toes, and just bask in the sunshine.
You know, when God made the beach, he really was showing off! There is hands down, nothing more therapeutic than spending a little time by sea.
It's fascinating to me how the actual sound of the waves rolling onto the shore and crashing against the coast can bring a sense of serenity.... but that feeling, that indescribably fantastic feeling is what I am craving and in dire need of.
I challenge each of you to find your happy place this weekend. Even if it is nothing more than a few moments alone in a warm bath, try to release the tension of the week and breathe.
I can't wait to share with you guys all that happens on my trip!
(PS - Sorry for the lame post. I'm tired, it's after midnight, and I'm just finishing up a little laundry. Have a wonderful weekend!)
Friday, May 23, 2014
Flaws.... I have a few
It's hard for those of us who want so desperately for everything around us (and inside of us,) to be perfect- to actually admit we have flaws.
I hate my flaws.
Or do I?
I got to thinking about what a flaw is. How does it define me, and just how much does it affect my self esteem.
If I look up the definition of flaw, it states:
I suppose the next step is to take stock of my "imperfections." Recognize and admit that yes, I do indeed, have several flaws.
Let's start with the superficial ones, shall we?
1. I have ugly toes. (I blame those years of dancing in pointe shoes.)
2. I have a big belly.
3. I have chubby thighs.
4. I have hair I have to color every 6 weeks or I would be gray.
5. I have a bad pinky nail on my right hand. (Old infection, from over 20 years ago, dead nail.)
6. My teeth are stained from drinking too much coffee.
7. I have skin tag scars from having some removed under my arm.
8. My boobs are entirely too big. (I wear a G. Yes, you read it here.)
9. I have a huge bottom.
10. My forearms develop a rash when I am under a lot of stress.
11. I have an indention in my cheek when I smile - all from falling down some stairs when I worked in television, face first.
12. My toes have such severe arthritis from years of dancing, it's hard to move them most days.
13. I have splotchy freckles on my face.
14. I have love handles.
15. The skin on my heels is oftentimes dry, no matter what I do!
16. My eyebrows are developing gray.
17. My hair is prone to frizziness.
18. I'm short, and apparently shrinking.
19. I have dark circles under my eyes.
20. I have deep crevice wrinkles on my forehead.
Or I could keep going...
Now for the interior stuff:
1. I am extremely moody. One minute I am happy, the next I want to bite your head off.
2. I talk too fast. (Though my theory is people just think too slow.)
3. I am extremely sarcastic. I used to say cynical, but I don't think that's true anymore. But I have a very smart mouth and it gets me in tons of trouble.
4. My face is very expressive - I can't hide my emotions very well.
5. I may seem aloof when I meet new people.
6. I have a very sharp tongue. It's never good to tangle with me, I am not easily intimidated by anyone.
7. I think most people I meet are not as smart as me. (That's just horrible... isn't it?)
8. I can't spell. (which totally screws up #7.)
9. I suffer from word vomit.
10. I'm actually more sensitive than I would like to admit.
11. I do not trust very easily.
12. I tend to attract opportunists.
13. I do not process emotion quickly.
14. I am terrible at math.
15. If I like something, I will over indulge.
16. I'm scared sometimes to try things I really want, for fear of failure.
17. I do not feel loved. Ever. I mean... ever.
18. I would not sacrifice myself for anyone else. So yes, I'm selfish.
19. Money burns a hole in my pocket. I do love to shop.
20. I am incredibly critical of myself.
Again.. I could go on all day long.
Now that I have identified my flaws - how can I learn to embrace them?
After doing a little research on the subject, I have to say that I am pleased to see one of the first sentences on Mind+Body+Green website say:
It takes a remarkable mental, emotional, and spiritual maturity to own up to your own faults, a maturity than cannot be bought or sold and does not come with age but rather circumstance.
Wow. Okay, that feels good.. I think. Many years ago, I went to a therapist to work through some issues, and he said, and I have to say it was the best advice ever, "Nicole, it's not about fixing yourself. It's about being self-aware. Understanding why you do what you do."
I suppose some of the items on my list can be changed. Like the weight issues and learning to think before I speak, but overall, some of those items may never be changed. What I have to do is understand why, accept it for what it is, and simply live my life. If I am my own worst critic, then I need to fire that critic and replace her with a cheerleader. I've come a long way in life - from that shy scrawny kid, to.. is it wrong to admit it... a strong, successful, intelligent, and mildly beautiful woman.
Are you able to see your flaws? Are you self aware enough to admit it and move on?
I hate my flaws.
Or do I?
I got to thinking about what a flaw is. How does it define me, and just how much does it affect my self esteem.
If I look up the definition of flaw, it states:
flaw1
flĂ´/
noun
noun: flaw; plural noun: flaws
1.
a mark, fault, or other imperfection that mars a substance or object. "plates with flaws in them were sold at the outlet store"
| synonyms: | defect, blemish, fault, imperfection, deficiency, weakness, weak spot/point/link, inadequacy, shortcoming, limitation, failing, foible; |
I suppose the next step is to take stock of my "imperfections." Recognize and admit that yes, I do indeed, have several flaws.
Let's start with the superficial ones, shall we?
1. I have ugly toes. (I blame those years of dancing in pointe shoes.)
2. I have a big belly.
3. I have chubby thighs.
4. I have hair I have to color every 6 weeks or I would be gray.
5. I have a bad pinky nail on my right hand. (Old infection, from over 20 years ago, dead nail.)
6. My teeth are stained from drinking too much coffee.
7. I have skin tag scars from having some removed under my arm.
8. My boobs are entirely too big. (I wear a G. Yes, you read it here.)
9. I have a huge bottom.
10. My forearms develop a rash when I am under a lot of stress.
11. I have an indention in my cheek when I smile - all from falling down some stairs when I worked in television, face first.
12. My toes have such severe arthritis from years of dancing, it's hard to move them most days.
13. I have splotchy freckles on my face.
14. I have love handles.
15. The skin on my heels is oftentimes dry, no matter what I do!
16. My eyebrows are developing gray.
17. My hair is prone to frizziness.
18. I'm short, and apparently shrinking.
19. I have dark circles under my eyes.
20. I have deep crevice wrinkles on my forehead.
Or I could keep going...
Now for the interior stuff:
1. I am extremely moody. One minute I am happy, the next I want to bite your head off.
2. I talk too fast. (Though my theory is people just think too slow.)
3. I am extremely sarcastic. I used to say cynical, but I don't think that's true anymore. But I have a very smart mouth and it gets me in tons of trouble.
4. My face is very expressive - I can't hide my emotions very well.
5. I may seem aloof when I meet new people.
6. I have a very sharp tongue. It's never good to tangle with me, I am not easily intimidated by anyone.
7. I think most people I meet are not as smart as me. (That's just horrible... isn't it?)
8. I can't spell. (which totally screws up #7.)
9. I suffer from word vomit.
10. I'm actually more sensitive than I would like to admit.
11. I do not trust very easily.
12. I tend to attract opportunists.
13. I do not process emotion quickly.
14. I am terrible at math.
15. If I like something, I will over indulge.
16. I'm scared sometimes to try things I really want, for fear of failure.
17. I do not feel loved. Ever. I mean... ever.
18. I would not sacrifice myself for anyone else. So yes, I'm selfish.
19. Money burns a hole in my pocket. I do love to shop.
20. I am incredibly critical of myself.
Again.. I could go on all day long.
Now that I have identified my flaws - how can I learn to embrace them?
After doing a little research on the subject, I have to say that I am pleased to see one of the first sentences on Mind+Body+Green website say:
It takes a remarkable mental, emotional, and spiritual maturity to own up to your own faults, a maturity than cannot be bought or sold and does not come with age but rather circumstance.
Wow. Okay, that feels good.. I think. Many years ago, I went to a therapist to work through some issues, and he said, and I have to say it was the best advice ever, "Nicole, it's not about fixing yourself. It's about being self-aware. Understanding why you do what you do."
I suppose some of the items on my list can be changed. Like the weight issues and learning to think before I speak, but overall, some of those items may never be changed. What I have to do is understand why, accept it for what it is, and simply live my life. If I am my own worst critic, then I need to fire that critic and replace her with a cheerleader. I've come a long way in life - from that shy scrawny kid, to.. is it wrong to admit it... a strong, successful, intelligent, and mildly beautiful woman.
Are you able to see your flaws? Are you self aware enough to admit it and move on?
Friday, May 16, 2014
Why I Write
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But for me, writing is cathartic. I need to write. I have to write. Why? Because my head is constantly swimming with ideas, memories, and sometimes... I just feel and care too damn much.
I wish I could just decompress by watching mindless reality tv or a glass of wine. I can't. I have to get it out, and talking to other people is really not an option for me. I do share some things, but honestly, I cannot express myself verbally the way I really need to.
The girl with the communications background has a hard time with communication. The girl with the Broadcast Journalism degree is more comfortable observing and reporting.
I read an excellent article today, it was titled, "How to think like a writer." The funny thing is, all of the things it suggested are things that I do naturally, without anyone telling me this is something I should do.
According to Carolyn Gregoire, a writer should:
- Study the greats
- Observe everything
- Daydream
- Write from your own truth
- Make writing your top priority
- Find your creative inspiration, wherever it may be
- Know what you are getting yourself into
- Find space for solitude
- Take it one day, one sentence at a time
- Compete only against yourself
- Just do it... and do it with joy
When I look over that list, I see many of my very truths - my essential habits. I am sure many of you who are writers do the same.
I think the most important thing to remember is- a writer comes in all forms. I like to document what I see, hear, feel, and believe. Some of you may create make believe worlds. Some may express through rhyme, while others do it lyrically. It doesn't matter how it is done, as long as someone does it.
It took me years to realize that I had a voice. When I found that voice, I was able to find a way to express without sounding callous (a terrible habit of those of us whose sense of humor is very dry and sarcastic.) Here I am able to express, not repress and be who I really am.
Thanks for traveling on that journey with me. I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but at least I am doing what I love.
Thursday, May 15, 2014
Hard Conversations
That girl to the left is me - age 20 or so. I was sitting on the front campus of Georgia College & State University, already a junior in college, studying to be a journalist.
I wanted to change the world. I wanted to complete my degree in Broadcast Journalism and travel the world, exposing injustice and highlighting life's little miracles.
I'm 41 now, a whole other lifetime later - and I still want to change the world, at least my little corner of the world. Try as I might, I can't quite seem to walk away from exposing my community's injustices and little miracles.
I did achieve that journalist's dream, and later I transitioned to work in nonprofits. At 39, I was able to mix two worlds I loved - art + nonprofit. As many of you know, I am the Director of Sales & Marketing for the Tubman African American Museum.
Aside from that title, I am still just a girl who wants to make a difference. I am incredibly lucky that I get to not only make an impact on my community, I get paid to do it.
Unfortunately, I find myself backed into a corner. My museum was hit with some very hard information and it could potentially cause serious problems.
We've seen it time and time again - government and corporate spending/donations dwindling away. I understand that. You can't work in nonprofit as long as I have and not fall victim to this. I've also experienced life unemployed - both are absolute dark times, for certain.
My museum just found out that the Mayor has proposed cutting all money to the museum. That means $250,000 would be eliminated in about 6 weeks. That's 40% of our operating budget. (that's what helps keep the doors open.) Let me repeat - this decision will be voted on in 6 weeks. As wonderful as we are, we are 99.9% not likely to raise a quarter of million dollars in just 6 weeks.... unless our commissioners vote in favor of reinstating this money.
Not only is it terrifying for me personally - it's terrible for our community. It's such a short sighted move. I'll tell you why - this community NEEDS the museum to not only contribute to the quality of life, but there is a definite need to promote the art, history and culture of the African American community.
How many African American museums can you name? How many serve as broad an audience as we do? How many are located in the thick of where the Civil War - Civil Rights - Integration - and a whole slew of activities took place? If we don't tell the story... who will?
So many people do not value the arts, and it all goes back to education and exposure. I can assure you, if you took music, art, theater, dance, and a list of other amazing activities, there would be absolutely no reason to live. When I say music - I mean even the music you listen to on the radio. When I say art, I even mean the clothes you wear, to the jewelry you buy, to the very design of your car. When I say theater - I mean the movies you watch, the tv shows you are addicted to, and when I say dance - I mean the most exhilarating movement you can possibly use to express. Of course I mean the classics (art/live theater/orchestra/etc,) but I want to drive home that message that you are SURROUNDED by art. It's all a part of the creative process, and if my museum does not survive this, a piece of that creative process dies.
Our museum was founded by Father Richard Keil. Richard has since left the priesthood, but it was the priesthood that was the catalyst for events he would witness that would create this museum. He was a farm boy from Wisconsin, and eventually was assigned to rural Alabama/Mississippi during the Civil Rights era. He saw atrocities, he witnessed injustice, he made a decision early on that human rights were for all people, regardless of color. When he was moved to Macon, Georgia to work as the priest at St. Peter Claver, he eventually decided to put his money down on an old dilapidated building downtown, and turned it into a museum to celebrate the culture of African Americans.
Did I mention he was a white man? Yes, he was - but that doesn't matter.
30 some years later, here we face a potential issue. Of course, as with everything, it goes back to money. I can only raise awareness so much - but I can't make you care. You might think, "Hey... we are like 40 years past the Civil Rights era... let's move on." If that is true, why did I receive hate mail at work after a television interview? Don't remember? Let me show you - click HERE.
It still exists - which means we have a looooooong way to go. How better to tell the story of the struggles and triumphs of this issue than with a museum dedicated to it. We have to understand the past so that we don't repeat it.
Again, I can't make anyone vote a certain way. I can't make you write to your commissioners. I can't make you buy a membership, or organize a rally, or even read this blog - but I can ask.
Do what you can .... with what you have.... where you are.
If you want to understand what I am talking about... click HERE. (That's detailed info.)
Personally, I'm trying really hard to fight like hell. I want this museum to succeed, with or without me. I want this community to succeed - but a decision to pass this budget without reinstating the $250,000 would be detrimental. I will be fine... I always am. But for once, it's time to roll up our sleeves and decide what's important.
Where do you stand, and are you brave enough to stand up and fight for it?
PS - though I may work for the museum, this is in no way the reflection or opinion of the museum. This is me - just sharing what I feel is the right thing to do. No one has permission to use anything I have said as a response from the museum, because it is not that. This is simply a Macon-Bibb County, tax paying resident voicing her opinion on a personal blog.
I wanted to change the world. I wanted to complete my degree in Broadcast Journalism and travel the world, exposing injustice and highlighting life's little miracles.
I'm 41 now, a whole other lifetime later - and I still want to change the world, at least my little corner of the world. Try as I might, I can't quite seem to walk away from exposing my community's injustices and little miracles.
I did achieve that journalist's dream, and later I transitioned to work in nonprofits. At 39, I was able to mix two worlds I loved - art + nonprofit. As many of you know, I am the Director of Sales & Marketing for the Tubman African American Museum.
Aside from that title, I am still just a girl who wants to make a difference. I am incredibly lucky that I get to not only make an impact on my community, I get paid to do it.
Unfortunately, I find myself backed into a corner. My museum was hit with some very hard information and it could potentially cause serious problems.
We've seen it time and time again - government and corporate spending/donations dwindling away. I understand that. You can't work in nonprofit as long as I have and not fall victim to this. I've also experienced life unemployed - both are absolute dark times, for certain.
My museum just found out that the Mayor has proposed cutting all money to the museum. That means $250,000 would be eliminated in about 6 weeks. That's 40% of our operating budget. (that's what helps keep the doors open.) Let me repeat - this decision will be voted on in 6 weeks. As wonderful as we are, we are 99.9% not likely to raise a quarter of million dollars in just 6 weeks.... unless our commissioners vote in favor of reinstating this money.
Not only is it terrifying for me personally - it's terrible for our community. It's such a short sighted move. I'll tell you why - this community NEEDS the museum to not only contribute to the quality of life, but there is a definite need to promote the art, history and culture of the African American community.
How many African American museums can you name? How many serve as broad an audience as we do? How many are located in the thick of where the Civil War - Civil Rights - Integration - and a whole slew of activities took place? If we don't tell the story... who will?
So many people do not value the arts, and it all goes back to education and exposure. I can assure you, if you took music, art, theater, dance, and a list of other amazing activities, there would be absolutely no reason to live. When I say music - I mean even the music you listen to on the radio. When I say art, I even mean the clothes you wear, to the jewelry you buy, to the very design of your car. When I say theater - I mean the movies you watch, the tv shows you are addicted to, and when I say dance - I mean the most exhilarating movement you can possibly use to express. Of course I mean the classics (art/live theater/orchestra/etc,) but I want to drive home that message that you are SURROUNDED by art. It's all a part of the creative process, and if my museum does not survive this, a piece of that creative process dies.
Our museum was founded by Father Richard Keil. Richard has since left the priesthood, but it was the priesthood that was the catalyst for events he would witness that would create this museum. He was a farm boy from Wisconsin, and eventually was assigned to rural Alabama/Mississippi during the Civil Rights era. He saw atrocities, he witnessed injustice, he made a decision early on that human rights were for all people, regardless of color. When he was moved to Macon, Georgia to work as the priest at St. Peter Claver, he eventually decided to put his money down on an old dilapidated building downtown, and turned it into a museum to celebrate the culture of African Americans.
Did I mention he was a white man? Yes, he was - but that doesn't matter.
30 some years later, here we face a potential issue. Of course, as with everything, it goes back to money. I can only raise awareness so much - but I can't make you care. You might think, "Hey... we are like 40 years past the Civil Rights era... let's move on." If that is true, why did I receive hate mail at work after a television interview? Don't remember? Let me show you - click HERE.
It still exists - which means we have a looooooong way to go. How better to tell the story of the struggles and triumphs of this issue than with a museum dedicated to it. We have to understand the past so that we don't repeat it.
Again, I can't make anyone vote a certain way. I can't make you write to your commissioners. I can't make you buy a membership, or organize a rally, or even read this blog - but I can ask.
Do what you can .... with what you have.... where you are.
If you want to understand what I am talking about... click HERE. (That's detailed info.)
Personally, I'm trying really hard to fight like hell. I want this museum to succeed, with or without me. I want this community to succeed - but a decision to pass this budget without reinstating the $250,000 would be detrimental. I will be fine... I always am. But for once, it's time to roll up our sleeves and decide what's important.
Where do you stand, and are you brave enough to stand up and fight for it?
PS - though I may work for the museum, this is in no way the reflection or opinion of the museum. This is me - just sharing what I feel is the right thing to do. No one has permission to use anything I have said as a response from the museum, because it is not that. This is simply a Macon-Bibb County, tax paying resident voicing her opinion on a personal blog.
Wednesday, May 7, 2014
Read Any Good Books Lately
I love my Kindle. Everyone who knows me, typically know my Kindle is not too far away from wherever I am sitting. I simply love to read, and to write. However, the past couple of weeks, I have not been able to do either.
Nothing is wrong - I'm just distracted.
Each night I open up my Kindle and begin one of the five or six books I have tried to start, and unfortunately can't get into. They are all delightful books, just none are holding my attention.
Nothing.
It's frustrating. Heck, even when it comes to the blog, I simply cannot think of anything to share. Nothing even remotely dramatic is going on in my life (and no, I am not complaining,) and the few things that might be bothersome are not things I can discuss (like work or personal relationships.) Which, btw, are not bothersome... just trudging through a heavy work schedule and trying to navigate the waters of dating/relationships at 40.
Then last night, this person I know asked me if I were a work-a-holic. Seriously.
Now here is what you need to know about me - Yes, I work and sometimes I have to work events and other things, so it looks like I spend a lot of time working. However, I am the queen of saying no and doing what I want to do, versus what someone else wants me to do. Sooo.. I have to say I was incredibly put off by the comment. Yuck.
Back to the books...
Here is what is currently open on my Kindle (with a few chapters being read of each:)
- A Religion of One's Own by Thomas Moore
- Reshaping It All - Candace Cameron
- Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Killer - Seth Smith
- Lean In - Sheryl Sandburg
- Cult - Warren Adler
- My Booky Wook - Russell Brand
- The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho
Seriously.
Can't seem to get far with any of these books.
What are you reading so far?
Nothing is wrong - I'm just distracted.
Each night I open up my Kindle and begin one of the five or six books I have tried to start, and unfortunately can't get into. They are all delightful books, just none are holding my attention.
Nothing.
It's frustrating. Heck, even when it comes to the blog, I simply cannot think of anything to share. Nothing even remotely dramatic is going on in my life (and no, I am not complaining,) and the few things that might be bothersome are not things I can discuss (like work or personal relationships.) Which, btw, are not bothersome... just trudging through a heavy work schedule and trying to navigate the waters of dating/relationships at 40.
Then last night, this person I know asked me if I were a work-a-holic. Seriously.
Now here is what you need to know about me - Yes, I work and sometimes I have to work events and other things, so it looks like I spend a lot of time working. However, I am the queen of saying no and doing what I want to do, versus what someone else wants me to do. Sooo.. I have to say I was incredibly put off by the comment. Yuck.
Back to the books...
Here is what is currently open on my Kindle (with a few chapters being read of each:)
- A Religion of One's Own by Thomas Moore
- Reshaping It All - Candace Cameron
- Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Killer - Seth Smith
- Lean In - Sheryl Sandburg
- Cult - Warren Adler
- My Booky Wook - Russell Brand
- The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho
Seriously.
Can't seem to get far with any of these books.
What are you reading so far?
Monday, April 21, 2014
What Are YOU doing?
I'm just going to break it down - I've been busy.
It's good! It's better than good - it's awesome.
I am finally taking a moment to catch every one who may still be reading (btw - who IS still reading, I see lots of page views, but very few comments... just like to know if you guys are still out there, not just passing through. :-)
Let's begin, shall we?
Now what have YOU been up to. Tell me!
It's good! It's better than good - it's awesome.
I am finally taking a moment to catch every one who may still be reading (btw - who IS still reading, I see lots of page views, but very few comments... just like to know if you guys are still out there, not just passing through. :-)
Let's begin, shall we?
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| Afternoon margaritas with my roomie have been a life saver! |
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| Enjoyed a wonderful lunch with someone on Saturday.. lol... coloring was involved. |
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| Loved having my Dad hang out with me on the balcony.. smoking his cigar. |
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| Oh yeah.. the container garden is coming along nicely... |
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| Also spent an afternoon at a winery with someone special. Good times.. |
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| Enjoyed spending time with my friends, Bill, Angel, Stephanie, and Scott at Travis Jean - an upscale "New Orleans inspired" gallery and antique store. |
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| My friend Angel hanging out at the Magnolia Street Soap Box derby |
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| I scored some tickets... who's going with me? |
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| Working extremely hard at work with our Dir. of Edu and my friend, Tonya. |
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| Did I mention the massive and wildly successful press conference we had? |
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| Hanging out with my good friend, Scott. |
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| A slight wipe out at the soap box derby |
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| Was an absolute blast in downtown Macon. |
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| My roomie and I |
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| Someone's last day as a 7 year old! |
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| Hanging out with my friends Bill & Molly |
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| Celebrated Autumn's birthday with a Zombie theme.. AND.. it was Easter. |
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| Progress is coming along well.. |
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| Our new museum should reopen to the public in March of next year. |
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| Coming alone beautifully and ON SCHEDULE! |
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| More friends at the Soap Box Derby... |
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| Food trucks and everything. Was a GREAT Saturday. |
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| Hanging out with David and Lynn (outside of Chris & Carey's home.) |
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| My plants are coming along well.. this was right before I potted them officially. |
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| I scored some baked mac & cheese from a food truck that sold all types of mac & cheese in a bowl! |
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| It's hard to get a photo of him... I found him hiding in my bathroom. lol |
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| Some of my favorite girls - Angel (a writer,) Stephanie (a writer & Advertising professor,) Me (a writer and Marketing Dir) and my sweet roomie. Three writers and a blonde walk into a bar... ;-) |
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| Little man has been sick - AGAIN. 4th URI in a year. Pray for his health. |
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| More soap box derby fun |
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| Bow down to the princess... or maybe I'm a fairy.. not sure... |
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| Happiness with my niece and sister |
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| My goodness is her hair turning slightly red and her freckles are coming out. The Scotch Irish is strong in this one. |
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| C'est Moi - Selfie |
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| Hanging out with friends Friday night at the Hummingbird - Watching Floco Torres perform. (Jeff, Danny, & Lynn.) |
Now what have YOU been up to. Tell me!
Monday, April 14, 2014
Living it Up!
“Don't you ever get the feeling that all your life is going by and you're not taking advantage of it? Do you realize you've lived nearly half the time you have to live already?”
― Ernest Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises
And there you have it - another weekend where I took some time to replenish my soul and enjoy life... just a little bit more.
My roomie and I were chatting about life, love, and everything else in between on Friday night. We sat, as we normally do, in our fold out chairs on the balcony, sipping margaritas and watching the sun set. As we were solving most of the world's problems, it hit me - My biggest fear is dying without truly living. It has always been so.
With that being said, my most intimate wish is to feel as if I have done all I could do, seen all I wanted to see, and experienced as much of this life as humanly possible and to take advantage of what it has to offer. I want this realization to hit me the moment I close my eyes for the last time.
Too much to ask? I don't think so.
These are the types of things I think about at 41. I've accomplished plenty career wise, and I realize there is waaaay more ahead. I have been married. I have lost people. I've experienced a lot of the successes and failures I was either hoping for or dreading as a young adult. Now, I have new hopes and fears - but something else that I never had before - a sense of finality and peace.
A weird little twinge of peace that sorts of rears its head from time to time.
Lately, my stressors and fears include the "unlived life," or filing and paying taxes and even having enough for retirement. It includes getting my health back on track by watching what I eat and exercising a little more. You feel so invincible when you are younger, it's crazy how quickly all of those bad choices you made catch up to you in your 40s.
Then the goals that I have set - I still have hopes and dreams. There are still 1/2 a dozen places on this planet I simply must see. I need to find a house (vacation or permanent) that I would like to spend my later years. I would like to go back to school and learn a few new things. I want to have a life partner/husband/soulmate - whatever you call that person. There's other stuff, but that's for my heart only.
It is incredibly important that we live our lives to the fullest. Everyday - try to say yes, when no would just be easier. Put yourself in situations that challenge you. Be a risk taker. (Not in the toxic sense, but by expanding your bubble.) Each day, each hour - we get another chance.
C. Joy Bell C. once said, "You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away.”
What do you plan to do this week to truly live your life to the fullest?
― Ernest Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises
And there you have it - another weekend where I took some time to replenish my soul and enjoy life... just a little bit more.
My roomie and I were chatting about life, love, and everything else in between on Friday night. We sat, as we normally do, in our fold out chairs on the balcony, sipping margaritas and watching the sun set. As we were solving most of the world's problems, it hit me - My biggest fear is dying without truly living. It has always been so.
With that being said, my most intimate wish is to feel as if I have done all I could do, seen all I wanted to see, and experienced as much of this life as humanly possible and to take advantage of what it has to offer. I want this realization to hit me the moment I close my eyes for the last time.
Too much to ask? I don't think so.
These are the types of things I think about at 41. I've accomplished plenty career wise, and I realize there is waaaay more ahead. I have been married. I have lost people. I've experienced a lot of the successes and failures I was either hoping for or dreading as a young adult. Now, I have new hopes and fears - but something else that I never had before - a sense of finality and peace.
A weird little twinge of peace that sorts of rears its head from time to time.
Lately, my stressors and fears include the "unlived life," or filing and paying taxes and even having enough for retirement. It includes getting my health back on track by watching what I eat and exercising a little more. You feel so invincible when you are younger, it's crazy how quickly all of those bad choices you made catch up to you in your 40s.
Then the goals that I have set - I still have hopes and dreams. There are still 1/2 a dozen places on this planet I simply must see. I need to find a house (vacation or permanent) that I would like to spend my later years. I would like to go back to school and learn a few new things. I want to have a life partner/husband/soulmate - whatever you call that person. There's other stuff, but that's for my heart only.
It is incredibly important that we live our lives to the fullest. Everyday - try to say yes, when no would just be easier. Put yourself in situations that challenge you. Be a risk taker. (Not in the toxic sense, but by expanding your bubble.) Each day, each hour - we get another chance.
C. Joy Bell C. once said, "You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away.”
What do you plan to do this week to truly live your life to the fullest?
Friday, April 11, 2014
The Professional World Rat Race - Guest Blog Post
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| Anna Kaye is the tiny person in the middle |
What I love most about AK is that she is a little spitfire! Whenever I see that quote, "Fierce, but flexible," I often think of her. (She will probably be surprised by that!) She is hands down one of the nicest people I have ever met.... so where did I get the "fierce" part? Because she has a determination to learn. She will not stop until she makes something happen, and I know, from the bottom of my heart, she is going to "make it" one day. (Of course, I'm going to have to convince her to try in smaller cities.. but you know, it's a hard lesson to learn. ;-) ) LOL - Without further babbling... here is her piece - The Professional Rat Race.
*Oh look, Amy updated
her LinkedIn profile. She received another promotion? And she’s three years
younger than I am. Good grief. If I ever hope to be as successful as she is I
should have ignored the child labor laws and joined the work force at 11.”
If you know anything about the professional world, you know
how easy it can be to transition from a normal human being into the green-eyed
monster with one simple glance at any social media outlet. It seems like
everywhere you turn it’s another friend’s super chic internship in NYC,
promotion at an exclusive ad agency or another publication in a magazine.
You can also look at it through the eyes of your current
job. Maybe it’s not exactly where you thought you would be, but you enjoy the
atmosphere and the people you work with. But you were hoping to be more than
just an “assistant.” Sure, anyone can photo copy and file, but you want to
contribute more, expand your skills, and most importantly, finally be taken
seriously as an upcoming professional.
When you were in college you probably had your ideal job
already picked out. However, reality set in post grad and you needed something
to pay the bills. So how can we keep our perspective while waiting for said
dream job to come along?
Remember where you are now in life, is not necessarily where
you will be five years from now. Life happens and things can change quickly. If
you’re the adventurous type, maybe you’ll be able to relocate and start your
journey from scratch. You never know how those opportunities will help you in
your career walk.
Focus on the things in your life which you enjoy and expand
on them. If you love the arts, take a painting, writing or photography
class. If you love music, try your hand
at the piano or guitar. If you love kids, volunteer at a children’s science
center or any other local place for kids.
You don’t have to become your 9-5 job. Your job doesn’t
define your identity as a person. You are more than simply an assistant. You
have much more to bring to the table even if you don’t see that right now. Even
though you see your co-workers advancing and being recognized for their
achievements, it doesn’t diminish the unique, creative, fun person you are.
Don’t get so caught up in the race that you’re burnt out before you have the
chance to shine.
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