Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Not Everyone's Cup of Tea

I've got 45 minutes to kill, so get ready for some dribble.

I got a kick out of this quiz I just took on Facebook. You know the ones, where they ask you some basic personality questions and then unscientifically announce what type of tree you would be, or where you should live, or who you would have been in a past life. These quizzes remind me so much of the Cosmo quizzes we all did in the 80s and 90s. (Wait.. perhaps people still do those. It's been decade since I wondered which 15 Positions Turn Him on or 8 Steps To Better Skin.)


I took one of the quizzes that dictate what kind of drink I would be. (Side note: I'm hyperactive with a dark sense of humor. I would say espresso.) However, this quiz was of the alcoholic nature. As it turns out, I was a Fine Glass of Wine. In the diagnosis, it said some complimentary things, then it had one sentence that struck that truth cord with me:

"Not everyone loves you, but those who do swear that you're the coolest thing since sliced bread. "

In one sentence, this quiz hit the nail on the head. It got to the very heart of who I am.
I've always said there are two types of people in my life: Either you love me or you hate me.

It's true! Lucky for me, I really don't care either way. (Which lends to the description, I'm sure.) I'm a take me or leave me kinda girl. As a friend I am extremely straight forward, which is great if you value honestly.... which I do. I expect and desire the same from my friends. And I can take... really I can.

Every once in a while I encounter someone who has a different idea of friendship. Not that either way is right or wrong, it just is. They typically like the "build each other up" relationship. Which, btw, I am totally going to cheer you on, which I think gives this personality type a false sense of security with me. As if it will always be rainbows and unicorns, but it is not. If you do something foolish, I'm going to call you out. If I do something foolish, I do not desire or need you to enable me any further. I want my friends to hold up a mirror and say, "Hey, you are making a big mistake." I may not always agree, but give me a few to process.

This other type of person is expecting me to validate their existence. But I don't think it is my job. I believe a real friend is, well, for lack of a better word, real. Which means... I'm not always going to be your cup of tea.

Which goes back to why most of my friends are super independent, strong women. Usually very smart, very successful, well-traveled, well-versed, and they seek the same.

What are some of your (what could be considered) hard to take attributes?

1 comment:

to be continued... said...

that one sentence was a good one! i'd say my bullshit tolerance level is very low. i could up it, a bit. …i reckon!!


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