tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4239739807914901688.post8821109739451458686..comments2023-10-30T07:33:01.023-04:00Comments on Destination Unknown: Are they Co-Dependent or just Plain Clingy??Nicolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09446171177767324879noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4239739807914901688.post-57626542355615371812010-04-29T21:58:20.104-04:002010-04-29T21:58:20.104-04:00Tori,
First of all, thank you so much for sharing...Tori,<br /><br />First of all, thank you so much for sharing your story. I truly appreciate it. Yes, and I am enjoying your blog also! I look forward to getting to know you, and to many posts of yours!<br /><br />As for co-dependency, I think more of us fall into this category than not.<br /><br />I am so happy you are in recovery and God Bless you!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09446171177767324879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4239739807914901688.post-67221086971683763162010-04-29T15:02:50.353-04:002010-04-29T15:02:50.353-04:00Hi Nicole! Thank you for stopping by my blog this ...Hi Nicole! Thank you for stopping by my blog this last weekend... :-D I really find your blog intriguing... so I decided I'm going to stick around!<br /><br />About your post- I struggled with co-dependence the majority of my life- it really is a process to overcome co-dependency because it really becomes part of the fiber of your being. I do believe there is hope for anyone who struggles with co-dependency. Essentially co-dependency constitutes weak boundaries. <br /><br />My co-dependency stemmed from childhood & how my parents raised me... they raised me to be co-dependent upon them. They were very religious and controlling in many aspects. I was to be submissive and obedient at all cost. I was a good kid- but I felt expected to please my parents and do what they wanted. I remember being 22 and feeling subjected to their control and rule. I gave them that kind of power. At 22, they started to get physically abusive towards me because I was starting to learn how to think for myself (college was teaching me critical thinking)... and so I moved out (without permission). It was the hardest thing to do but I had to do it. I felt cruel for separating myself from my abuser but felt peace too because I knew it was the right thing to do.<br /><br /> Like you said, it takes 2- it wasn't right for them to do that, but it also wasn't right for me to let them. I had to come to the point where I was "sick & tired of being sick & tired" and I had to separate myself physically, emotionally, mentally from them in order to seek healing. It has been hard on them but I think beneficial in the long run. At 22, I was lost- I didn't know who I was- my identity was tied into my parents and what they wanted and what they thought. At 22, I embarked on a journey to figure out who I was- because at that point I was clueless. <br /><br />I have so much more to say about this topic but will stop here... I could go on and on... <br /><br />I am currently in Celebrate Recovery (as you described above) and am seeing results. I am growing so much in the group & would recommend it to anyone who struggles with co-dependency/alcoholism or addictions of any sort. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing!Tori Cooperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06312794332180689318noreply@blogger.com